Mutually mindful of your mate

Women be ever mindful that your utterances often determine or undermine any endeavor of your man. Encourage him! Don't discourage him! The male psyche is a weak, tender thing!

Men! The same thing applies to you relative to your woman! The female psyche is also a weak and tender thing, though it is naturally much stronger than yours because she must bear, often alone, the draining psychological ordeal of childbirth and rearing.

Above all, respect yourselves and each other by word, thought, and deed as you go! You need and reinforce each other, continually, whether you realize it or not! Each strengthens and inspires the other at home and in public.

Deconstructing a triple tragedy: KC'S Javon Belcher Mystery

DECONSTRUCTING A TRIPLE TRAGEDY: KC’s Javon Belcher Mystery

Tuesday, December 04, 2012

By Rev. Dr. Larry Delano Coleman

 

http://www.kansascity.com/2012/12/04/3946159/belcher-shot-himself-as-kc-police.html#storylink=cpy

 

The murder-suicide of Kansas City Chiefs linebacker, Javon Belcher, has left more questions than answers. Its motive remains a mystery, dying with Kassandra Perkins, Belcher’s 22-year old, live-in girlfriend, and with 25-year old Belcher, himself.

Even so, certain lessons leap out from the few known facts.

First, their “live-in” domestic status was doubtless contributory. Javon’s mother had “visited” from New York to assist in carrying for their 3-month old daughter, now cruelly orphaned.  

Marriage with its expectations, conventions, duties and reciprocal obligations, beats live-in hands-down! That is lesson #1 as we move through this tragedy’s sad deconstruction.

Second, the baby, while blessed by God with birth, is now cursed by man in life with orphanage. Bottom line: defer child-bearing ladies, until he has “put a ring on it” as Beyonce sings famously! That protects the baby and you, precluding questions pertinent to paternity etc. So, lesson #2 is don’t have a baby until after you’re married “with papers” i.e., legally, under law.

Thirdly,  the KC Star newspaper article linked above reports that Kassandra Perkins had gone out to a concert, and afterwards had gone for drinks with her friends, arriving home “late,” in Belcher’s estimation. He, himself, had reportedly gone partying downtown and was later found by police asleep in his car on a mid-town street, Armour Blvd.

The point made here is that separate social agendas strain and imperil relationships to the breaking point,  especially live-in relationships! So, lesson #3 whether married or not: if you are living in, at least do things together as a couple, to thwart distrust or insincerity from arising.

There may be points others could add to this list. Many couples across America are “living-in” under circumstances not too dissimilar from Belcher’s and Perkins’. Ideally, they, too, will draw instruction from this all-too-hasty deconstruction and amend their lives together, accordingly.

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Blacks Are the True American Patriots!

http://inventors.about.com/od/bstartinventors/a/Banneker_2.htm

Benjamin Banneker's brilliant response to President Thomas Jefferson's "white supremist" expediency is the clearest declaration of human rights and interdependence ever written! It far exceeds the edited Declaration of Independence which the slaveholding Jefferson wrote before the American Revolution began, and which he abandoned thereafter for his own convenient profit.

Neither can it be forgotten that Jefferson fled Philadelphia during the "Yellow Fever" scare of 1793, when the black Free African Society came to the rescue of whites, at the risk of their own lives!

Blacks are the true American patriots as proven in history time and time again!

Compeers self-educate

Compeers make ideal teachers and students! Utilize their talent, empathy and intelligence!

Whither Canaan? Africa dismembered!

Canaan is missing: better known as Israel, Palestine, Lebanon!

Canaan is missing from this map, although it is geographically connected to Africa: historically, culturally, archaeologically, genetically and linguistically. Presently, Israel, Palestine, and Lebanon occupy this dismembered segment. Thereby, our connection to the Phoenicians and the Carthaginians is suppressed, obscured.

MARK 1-- TELL NO MAN...if you can!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=w-V_BgQaJpY#t=39s

MARK 1-- TELL NO MAN...if you can!

40 And there came a leper to him, beseeching him, and kneeling down to him, and saying unto him, If thou wilt, thou canst make me clean. 41 And Jesus, moved with compassion, put forth his hand, and touched him, and saith unto him, I will; be thou clean. 42 And as soon as he had spoken, immediately the leprosy departed from him, and he was cleansed. 43 And he straitly charged him, and forthwith sent him away; 44 And saith unto him, See thou say nothing to any man: but go thy way, shew thyself to the priest, and offer for thy cleansing those things which Moses commanded, for a testimony unto them.45 But he went out, and began to publish it much, and to blaze abroad the matter, insomuch that Jesus could no more openly enter into the city, but was without in desert places: and they came to him from every quarter.Compare: Matthew 8:1-4; Luke 5:12-16

SELF-INVESTIGATION

Any thing can be misused or abused, by anyone, or, even by one's own self. That is no reason to fear, to resent or to avoid that thing, reflexively, without one's own independent investigation of that thing.

That thing first must be tested, proven, and assayed by you, in its own right, and in its own light, not in that of another nor not at all. That “thing” might be a substance, a government, a creed, a deed, an implement, an animal, a plant, a teaching, a person or a people. That “thing” might also be “you.”

“You” may now be or “you” may once have been consciously or unconsciously objectified, vilified and nullified, by others, or by your own indolent inertia, i.e. “apathy.” You may have consented by conduct.

Whether you are a self-abuser, a self-misuser, or that of another, candid self-investigation will reveal. From self-investigation will arise a methodology equally applicable to all other persons and things.