Extemporaneous musings, occasionally poetic, about life in its richly varied dimensions, especially as relates to history, theology, law, literature, science, by one who is an attorney, ordained minister, historian, writer, and African American.
Sunday, August 23, 2015
FAMILIAL PHEROMONES FROM FATHER TO BETROTHED SON
FAMILIAL PHEROMONES FROM FATHER TO BETROTHED SON
Family gatherings reinforce the family itself and each member.
Our youngest son, Kemet, who will wed within the week, used to love our periodic family meetings so much, he would even suggest or request them at various times.
Speaking now to you, as father-to-son, Kemet Dumas Coleman, your time has come for your own family convocations. Let me in love provide a few major insights.
First, my mother and father loved family gathering too. The more the merrier, was their rule. That pertained to babies born, and raised up. It also pertained to family occasions, like vacations, school events. holiday feasts and barbecues, family visits, church, graduations, reunions, marriages.
Memories flow from these most cherished of meetings. Traditions are explained and passed down. Newer members get to see, hear, touch, laugh with, talk to and with older members and their peers at them, as well. Stories and lies are told and retold. Hopes revealed and bonds of love are renewed.
"Do not forsake the gathering together" says the Bible in the context of church. Families are the first church, by definition. In families, preparation is made for the outer world including speech, conduct, appearances, tidiness, courtesy, obedience, and order. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/…
When families dissolve much is lost . Dissolution can be caused by crime, distance, divorce, dire poverty, disease, disability, death, war, other unresolved tensions.
Sometimes, families can be in fact together but fail to exchange the vital, familial, pheromonal, ties that bind, and that cement love. "Pheromonal" is a metaphor for message board. It is taken from biology. Insects exchange such messages with each other as to the location of food, danger, etc.
Family pheromonal disruptions can be the same as not meeting, at all, as collegiality, familiarity is destroyed or diverted to/ sporting events on television, cell phone or telephone conversations, texting, video games, computers, or myriad others. Fight against the insidious forces that would undermine familial pheromonal exchanges with your family, son.
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Resisting these sirens of familial distortion, dislocation, and destruction in this frenetic, cyber era requires a concerted effort by all, and by you in particular as the father, who sets the example, and collaborates with a wife, faithfully.
Families are the molecules of the nation. Strong families make for very strong nations, states, communities, and individuals too.
Marriage is the mustard seed of families. Great is the abundance born from that tiny seed, Kemet. May God's grace be upon you and yours, son, forever, always!